Outside my circle: A guide to love (Interracial love)

[I created a series of FAQ we often encounter regarding different types of love in this world, titled "Outside my circle: A guide to love." This section is about interracial love.]

How can they be in love, or any kind of relationship? They are different races! 

♥People like and/or love other people. They are able to embrace different races and ethnicities and find beauty in and past skin color. 

Mixing is bad, they’re doing wrong by their race.

♥The entire concept of race and it’s hierarchy was made up by (racist) people; “mixing” isn’t wrong.

 

They’re just stealing guys/girls from my race and I don’t like it.

♥You don’t own everybody in your racial group. If you don’t like it, try to consider why.

We need to preserve the cleanliness of our race; this is all kinds of wrong for our civilization.

♥You like the privilege you have, calling yourself pure? The concept of purity that you have is prejudiced and racist. You are not better than someone else because your mother fucked some man of the same race. Not only do you propose us to be separate, but you don’t even think of us as equal? That’s the main problem. Additionally, unless humans all stop having babies completely, I don’t think you have to worry about the human race dying out any time soon. 

Two or more different cultures can’t meet and be stable though.

♥With a closed mind, racist attitude and superiority complex, I imagine it would be difficult. Luckily that’s not the case for many interracial couples and multiracial children of these couples. If there’s not a racist family member breathing fire down their throats, usually it turns into a beautiful experience and a richer view of the world and an amazing part of people’s identity. At the end of the day, a culture should rely on more than just the shade of someone’s skin and the pedestal that certain skin tones get to sit on because of their power throughout history. 

How is it a good thing though? What benefit comes from it?

♥You can’t say that any real negative thing comes from interracial relationships without a very racist, privileged mentality. In most relationships, if they’re healthy and consensual and loving, then that enough is a good thing. A (new) population that embraces differences is better than one that is built on hate. Even if you ignore that point, interracial love simply is. It’s love, and it’s not your place to decide who gets to love whom. 

Think of the children!

♥ I happen to be one of those children, and a more personal blog about that will come later :)

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Outside my circle: A guide to love (Same-sex love)

[I created a series of FAQ we often encounter regarding different types of love in this world, titled "Outside my circle: A guide to love." This section is about same-sex love.]

What if I don’t like looking at two guys or two girls holding hands, kissing, and generally expressing affection or love?

♥You should consider whether you have a problem with PDA in general, or if the problem is with who exactly is expressing this in public. You cannot dictate what kind of kiss is allowed in public or in the media and then deny all the other types.

♥You should then consider the fact that people who surround you in this world do not exist for your judgment. Strangers in the mall are not in your eyesight to please or entertain you. At the end of the day, holding hands, hugging, kissing and light cuddling is the most PDA you’ll probably see, in average.

♥Realistically, your life isn’t truly affected if the people holding hands in your peripheral vision have the same genitalia or not. If you don’t like it, realize that nobody’s asking you to like it. They don’t want your opinion, nor do they want you to join in. So it would probably be best to mull over the idea that it’s none of your business, and they have a right to express their affection in the same way that others do all the time.

But it’s against my religion.

♥Are you sure about that? Might want to do some research. Additionally, it’s your faith, not theirs. Hating something under the guise of religion is a choice that you make, with an excuse that you chose. Love and equal rights are not something that can be made into a pageant, debating around the subjects where you’re the judge. 

But relationships lead to marriage, and marriage is between a man and a woman, for the purpose of procreating.

♥Some relationships lead to marriage. I know many hetero couples who live together but have no intention of getting married. What’s important is that marriage is a right that all should have. Also, marriage is a cross-cultural institution that exists in a different form for different people depending on their ideas, the time period, and many other factors.

♥There’s just not one way of practicing. You don’t need men and women to be getting married in order to procreate. That can happen outside of marriage. There are also many men and women getting married that chose not to have children, or who are unable to have children without additional help (if they chose it). 

It’s not natural.

♥Yeah, it is. It happens in nature all the time. I wouldn’t be so quick to throw around the word or idea of things being “natural” to begin with, either, as you sit here and read this on your computer. ;)

But it’s nasty!

♥Last time I checked, hating and discriminating against people and their rights is nastier than people loving one another.

Okay, so I respect same-sex relationships and the GLBTQ community. What more can I do to be a better ally? 

♥That will be addressed in a later post :)

Can you expand on the marriage issue?

♥That will also be addressed in a later post. This series is all about love, and marriage is just a part of that, not the entire issue of understanding different types of love. 

 

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